A REFLECTION ON SELF-LOVE, BOUNDARIES, AND BECOMING
For much of my life, self-love felt like something to achieve rather than something to embody. It was shaped by how I believed I needed to be perceived or how others told me it should be. Strength was something I performed. Boundaries were something I defended. And worth often felt as though it lived outside of me rather than at my center. I just didn’t understand how to attain it. I now understand how much of that came from learning early to dim myself.
Being the scapegoat in a family system teaches you to live away from your own center. You learn to carry what is not yours, to stay vigilant rather than open, and to measure yourself through external narratives instead of internal truth. For years, my presence was cautious rather than luminous, shaped more by survival than alignment. I had not yet learned how to remain connected to it with steadiness. It limited me in so many ways personally and professionally.
Over time, through dedicated practice and ritual, that relationship with myself has shifted. Self-love has become a bridge between my body, mind, and subtle energy. Simple rituals like bringing awareness to breath and noticing subtle shifts in my energy helped me anchor in my own center. They allowed me to stay open without overextending, to soften without collapsing, and to connect to my core truths naturally. From there I could hear the soft whisper of internal truths and self knowing that were always there.
I often say, “I don’t negotiate my worth,” not as a declaration of toughness, but as an acknowledgment of grounded self-awareness. When your internal alignment is steady, external challenges no longer dictate your energy. When value is known internally, it does not need to be defended. It remains warm, stable, and intact, even under pressure.
This awareness has allowed me to live more comfortably in both my strengths and my limitations. I no longer experience them as fractures that require fixing. They inform one another and create balance. There is a softness in how I move through relationships now, paired with firmness where it matters.
In this next phase of life, I feel closer to the essence of who I was as a child; free, curious, and untethered by old expectations. The burdens of past roles, inherited beliefs, and self-erasure no longer cloud my purpose. My daily self-care practices have made it possible to hold space for myself, even as I remain fully present with others.
Self-love, I have learned, is stabilizing. It is the energy that allows us to show up fully, with clarity, discernment, and presence. From that place, connection becomes authentic, boundaries feel natural, and the heart no longer needs to hide in order to stay safe.
Reflection Prompt:
Which daily practice or ritual helps me anchor in my own center and radiate presence from there?
Tara, Founder, Thara Sacra
Our Chakra essential oil blends are formulated for each of the 7 main Chakras or energy centers within the body. The Lower Chakras - Root, Sacral, and Solar Plexus focus on our physical connection to the earth and others. The Upper Chakras Throat, Third Eye, and Crown focus on our spiritual connection to ourselves and the Divine. The Heart Chakra, in the middle, is the bridge between the physical and divine.
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Individual Chakra Oils 5 ml / 0..17 fl oz MIRON glass bottle with vertical dropper and cap
7 Chakra Oil Set contains 7 5 ml / 0..17 fl oz MIRON glass bottles with vertical droppers and caps in a box
GROUND CHAKRA OIL: A calming and earthy blend. Ground helps to nurture and strengthen our base. Instantly grounding, this scent evokes the feeling of being gently rocked by Mother Earth herself. Ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Patchouli* (Pogostemon Cablin), Black Spruce* (Picea Mariana), Black Pepper* (Piper Nigrum), Vetiver* (Vetiveria Zizanoides).
RETURN CHAKRA OIL: A soft and sensual blend. Return helps connect us to our emotional body and return to our knowledge of self. This scent also helps stimulate creative energy allowing the user to release inhibitions and manifest freely. Ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Tangerine* (Citrus reticulata), Amyris (Amyris balsamifera L.), Palmarosa* (Cymbopogon martinii), Ylang Ylang* (Cananga odorata).
EMPOWER CHAKRA OIL: An invigorating and supportive blend. Empower helps to clear negative energy and restore self-confidence. This scent also helps to stoke our inner fire opening us up to the full potential of our personal power. Ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Grapefruit* (Citrus paradisi), Juniper* (Juniperus communis L.), Spikenard* (Nardostachys grandiflora), Melissa* (Melissa officinalis L.).
ACCEPT CHAKRA OIL:A harmonizing and centering blend. Accept helps us release heavy emotions so we can open our hearts to see the beauty in ourselves and others. This scent also helps balance and harmonize our upper and lower chakras centering us in truth so we can be a clear channel for universal love and acceptance. Ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Bergamot* (Citrus aurantium var. bergamia), Jasmine (Jasminum grandiflorum), Benzion (Styrax benzoin Dryand), Yarrow* (Achillea millefolium L.)
AFFIRM CHAKRA OIL: A calming and clarifying blend Affirm helps us to see our highest truths and express ourselves clearly. This scent also helps to open and balance our energy centers so we can speak from a place grounded in truth and love. Ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Blue Cypress* (Callitris columellaris F.Muell.), Petitgrain sur Fleurs* (Citrus aurantium var. amara), Tulsi* (Ocimum sanctum L.), Rose Geranium* (Pelargonium graveolens var. roseum)
ILLUMINATE CHAKRA OIL: A opening and balancing blend. Illuminate helps to open up and balance our third eye allowing for clarity of thought and a stronger connection to our higher self. This scent also helps to calm the senses so we are able to perceive things clearly and draw more easily from our intuition. Full list of ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Opopanax* (Commiphora glabrescens), Scotch Pine* (Pinus sylvestris), Cistus* (Cistus ladaniferus), Laurel Leaf* (Laurus nobilis L.)
TRANSCEND CHAKRA OIL: An uplifting and ethereal blend. Transcend helps to elevate our consciousness and connect more freely to spirit. This scent also helps to ground and soothe us allowing us to be grateful and at peace with the knowledge that all life is interconnected. Full list of ingredients: Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Atlas Cedarwood* (Cedrus Atlantica (Endl.) Manetti ex Carrière), Myrtle* (Myrtus Communis L.), Rosemary ct Cineole* (Rosmarinus Officinalis ct Cineole), Lotus (Nelumbo Nucifera).
*Organic
Through the guided lessons and reflective practices we teach, you will develop a personal relationship with plants, understanding their unique energetic properties and how they can support your well-being. Mindfully crafted journal prompts and exercises invite you to slow down and connect with the plant world through mindful observation so you can begin to perceive the subtle energies and messages that plants offer.
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Drift into tranquility with the calming aroma of Radiate Massage Oil, designed to soothe your senses. Ground Foot & Body Oil offers a grounding touch, perfect for unwinding after a day of exploration. Elevate your sleep sanctuary with the calming mist of Ground Pillow Mist. Complete your self-care ritual with Transcend Scalp Balm, a meditative blend for a serene mind.
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KIT CONTAINS:
Radiate Massage & Body Oil An expansive and grounding blend. Radiate helps to balance and unite all the chakras bringing one's spiritual and physical life into balance. 2 dram / 0.125 fl oz glass bottle with vertical dropper and cap
Full list of ingredients: Grapeseed Oil (Vitis Vinifera), Medium Chain Triglycerides (Caprylic/Capric Triglycerides), Meadowfoam Seed Oil (Limnanthes Alba), Jojoba Seed Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Avocado Fruit Oil (Persea Gratissima), Vitamin E (Tocopherol), Neem Seed Oil* (Melia Azadirachta), Rosemary Leaf Extract* (Rosmarinus Officinalis), Cardamom* (Elettaria Cardamomum), Davana (Artemisia Pallens), Neroli* (Citrus Aurantium L. var. Amara), Sweet Orange* (Citrus Sinensis), Elemi (Canarium Luzonicum).
Ground Foot and Body Oil A calming and earthy blend. GROUND helps to nurture and strengthen our base. (Root Chakra, Muladhara) Instantly grounding, this scent evokes the feeling of being rocked by Mother Earth herself. 2 dram / 0.125 fl oz glass bottle with vertical dropper and cap
Full list of ingredients: Olive Oil* (Olea Europaea), Sesame Seed Oil* (Sesamum Indicum), Avocado Oil*, (Persea Gratissima), Neem Oil*, (Azadirachta Indica), Patchouli* (Pogostemon Cablin), Black Spruce* (Picea Mariana), Black Pepper* (Piper Nigrum), Vetiver* (Vetiveria Zizanoides).
Ground Pillow Mist The aroma of Ground with just a hint of lavender 5 ml glass bottle with spray atomizer
Full list of ingredients: Distilled Water (Aqua), **Alcohol Denat* (Alcohol Dent.), Black Spruce* (Picea Mariana), Patchouli* (Pogostemon Cablin), Black Pepper* (Piper Nigrum), Vetiver* (Vetiveria Zizanoides), **Denatured with Organic Lavender (Lavandula Angustifolia).
Transcend Scalp Massage Balm An uplifting and ethereal blend, Transcend helps to elevate our consciousness and connect more freely to spirit. 1 oz tin
Full list of ingredients: Virgin Shea Nut Butter* (Butyrospermum Parkii), Babassu Oil* (Orbignya Oleifera), Jojoba Oil* (Simmondsia Chinensis), Candelilla Wax (Euphorbia Cerifera), Sapote Oil (Pouteria Sapota), Argan Oil* (Argania Spinosa), Atlas Cedarwood* (Cedrus Atlantica (Endl.) Manetti ex Carrière), Myrtle* (Myrtus Communis L.), Rosemary ct Cineole* (Rosmarinus Officinalis ct Cineole), Lotus (Nelumbo Nucifera).
*Organic